Dating is one of the most searched topics among Christians today. While the Bible doesn’t directly mention “dating” in the modern sense, it provides timeless wisdom on love, purity, friendship, marriage, and even singleness. If you’ve been wondering what the Bible says about dating, this guide will walk you through key biblical principles.
The idea of modern dating didn’t exist in biblical times, people entered marriage through courtship or family arrangements. But Scripture still gives us truths about relationships, love, and honoring God. Whether you’re single, dating, or waiting, the Bible has wisdom for you.
1. Singleness Is a Gift
“I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.” – 1 Corinthians 7:7
Contrary to cultural pressure, being single is not a curse. The Bible says singleness is a gift that allows you to focus on serving God fully. Before dating, learn to embrace this season, grow spiritually, pursue your purpose and strengthen your character.
At the same time, God affirms the desire for companionship.
“The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for a man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’” – Genesis 2:18
For those who desire marriage, God’s Word assures us:
“None shall lack her mate.” – Isaiah 34:16
Marriage like singleness is a gift from God, and His will is that those who desire to marry will receive in His perfect timing.
2. Friendship Matters in Relationships
“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” – Proverbs 17:17
Dating should begin with genuine friendship. Healthy friendships lay the foundation for lasting love. A godly friendship helps you truly know someone’s character, values, and faith before deeper commitment. Jesus Himself modeled deep, meaningful friendships with His disciples.
3. Date with Purpose
“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” – 1 Corinthians 10:31
Dating shouldn’t be casual entertainment. God calls us to live with intention. A relationship should move toward marriage, not just temporary companionship. Purposeful dating honors God and respects both hearts involved.
4. Choose a Godly Partner
“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” – 2 Corinthians 6:14
Your partner influences your faith, future, and family. The Bible urges Christians to seek relationships with those who share their faith in Christ. A godly partner strengthens your walk with God instead of pulling you away.
5. Pursue Purity
“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality.” – 1 Thessalonians 4:3
Dating should help you grow, not compromise your purity. God’s design is for intimacy within marriage. By setting boundaries and honoring God with your body, you protect your heart and future relationship.
6. Practice Christ-like Love and Respect
“Love is patient, love is kind…” – 1 Corinthians 13:4
Biblical love is not based on selfish desires but on kindness, patience, and respect. In dating, practice treating each other with dignity and compassion. True love reflects Christ’s sacrificial love.
7. Seek God’s Guidance
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart… and He will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:5–6
Pray before, during, and about your relationship. Don’t rely only on feelings—invite God into your dating life. He cares about who you choose and wants to lead you to His best.
God’s Blueprint for Relationships
The Bible’s wisdom on dating goes beyond romance, it calls us to embrace singleness as a gift, build strong friendships, pursue purity, and choose partners who love God. Whether you’re waiting, dating, or walking in friendship, God wants to be at the center of your journey.
When you honor Him in your relationships, you’ll find peace, direction, and joy in His perfect timing.
If you’re looking for deeper guidance on Christian dating, here are a few books that have been helpful: The Right One by Jimmy Evans gives clear biblical steps for dating with purpose. Holding Hands, Holding Hearts helps recover a godly perspective on relationships from the very start.
